Thursday, October 27, 2011

The Two Bit Hooker and other flies not for kids


In the last 3 issues of Fly Fisherman magazine, there has been an ongoing presentation letters addressing something that would seem simple enough to decide, but has somehow become a running debate; Todd Harper wrote in to the magazine’s Tight Lines (letters to the editor) section describing how uncomfortable it was for him to deal with the impression his 10 year old daughter got from the name of Charlie Craven's fly the “Two-Bit Hooker”. You’d think this would be a no-brainer, but the magazine has since printed letters in each successive issue from writers decrying, even ridiculing, the desire of Mr. Harper to dare filter what reaches his child. If only more felt this way!
 
Can you guess my point of view?

Let me say first that the name of that particular fly seems to have originated from the two beads used in its construction, however the young girl immediately thought prostitute as does almost anyone who hears it. I don't get the impression that Mr. Craven was dancing nasty when he named this one. The general topic however has been treated shabbily. Contrary to every response printed by Fly Fisherman, I am in complete agreement with Todd Harper; there’s a growing frat-boy humor in the naming of flies that belongs locked in the fraternity where the other not-quite-yet men can guffaw over their toilet humor and sexual innuendo. Truly, while I certainly don’t know anything about the personality or habits of Mr. Kelley Galloup or claim to, I can’t help but wonder what kind of freaky night life he enjoys since he likes to name so many of his flies with sexually oriented appellations. Perhaps he's just a guy looking to spark attention, I can't say. He isn’t the only one, but it’s his flies which prominently grace the pages and covers of Fly Fisherman and other fly fishing magazines, so by default he becomes the flag bearer of the movement. 

How disappointing to see so many letters haranguing Todd Harper for daring care what influences his child! I wonder if there have been any letters to the magazine in his support. That is, aside from the one I sent which didn’t reach the light of day. Fly fishermen have always had the reputation of being the upper crust, the highfalutin’ of society from whom bait and lure fishermen could only humbly recede a number of yards as they cast their lines across the waters. That reputation is crumbling quickly under the weight of men looking either for attention to sell their wares, or truly uncaring about the people around them. That is the trend of society (“I want what I want; if you don’t want what I want, too bad, I win”), and I wonder if Fly Fisherman is going that way (Galloup is a big name; are they keeping him from dissention?) or if there truly haven’t been any letters to them espousing a view which cares about the next generation, and themselves don’t wallow in the verbal mire.

I’m a Christian, and there are a number of flies I won’t even name because their names are crude and simply a juvenile cry for attention. I know fishers who aren’t Christians but still find difficulty in naming these flies much less touting their worth. You cannot find any logical reason to name a fly “Sex Dungeon” other than to get attention. It is my hope that Mr. Galloup, Fly Fisherman, and others of the same mindset will remember that there are people who appreciate their work, but won’t play that game. 

I stopped getting Fly Rod and Reel because of their uncensored articles because I don’t want to read all the foul language when I simply want a story on travel, tying or fishing. I won’t buy or tie flies that have crude names because I don’t want to turn to someone who asks what fly I’m using and end up in either a Beavis and Buttheadesque conversation, or with the embarrassment of trying to explain the name. Searching the web and looking at fly fishing blogs, it appears that most of those who are writing on the topic just don't care because they reckon their kids are already exposed to this stuff on tv, but that only highlights the fact that if someone had kept the standards high for tv, they wouldn't have seen or heard it there.

At the bottom of the list of possibilities, I can’t imagine explaining to a group of young people that I’ve taken to the lake how the fly I’m using is called the Sex Dungeon. It’s just not a situation I’m going to create.

5 comments:

cofisher said...

Hello Mark, with all due respect, you've missed the point about the Two-bit Hooker. I ran a post (and had my letter appear in Fly Fisherman) about Mr. Harper for one simple reason...Harper didn't get it...that it was his poor parenting that caused his problem.

Nobody that I know made light of Harper's fear of his daughter being corrupted, except by him. I don't know any kids that age that would even think about asking what a hooker was unless they heard the word spoken somewhere. The words don't paint a picture for a 10 year that would make sense to them.

Surely Mr. Harper is smarter than his daughter. When she asked what a hooker was, that big tall father-figure could certainly have made up a clever answer, like it's fishing hook that catches fish. I doubt she would ever even remember the conversation a day later. Mr. Harper needs to censor himself, not Charlie Craven.

My last point is this. I know Charlie Craven. He is a really fine family man and pillar of his community but he didn't sign up to raise Mr. Harper's daughter. Harper is throwing his responsibility out with the bath water.

Howard (cofisher)Levett
www.cofisher.blogspot.com

~Mark said...

(Sorry for getting your comment posted so long after you left it. With my current schedule I have to keep moderation on until such a time as I can check regularly. I once went without moderation and things got really bad.)

I'm going to focus on one very important part of your comment: I don't know any kids that age that would even think about asking what a hooker was unless they heard the word spoken somewhere.

That is the WHOLE point. Reading and talking about flies is becoming a place where kids WILL hear those terms, in addition to tv and radio and as people forfeit personal responsibility more and more, even just walking down the street.

That is the point, and you've pointed out the problem.

Curt and Jen said...

Hi! I just happened upon your blog. Although I'm just a spinning rod and bait fisherman :), I do appreciate this article and your concern. Fishing is a great family sport, and we should keep it that way. I also am thankful for your Christian perspective, being an undeserving Christian myself. Thank-you!

~Mark said...

Thank you Curt and Jen! It's great to meet fellow Christian fishers, and God has really blessed me in that area to met several very good Christian anglers.

I'd better post more to keep y'all interested and attract more, eh? ;-)

CaptJamie said...

I wonder if the little girl thinks of prostitutes or more particularly, a madam when she reads about "Kitty Mitchell" groupers? Maybe "dad" should tell her where that one comes from. He probably doesn't know though, so it's ok for his daughter to see that. I think the fact that she correlated "hooker" with prostitute shows that the girl is educated beyond her years. This could have been the perfect opportunity to teach the little girl the importance of tastefully informative writing, and instead it was turned into an opportunity to criticize and attempt to sensor an article or author. I also must consider if she thinks that "jewfish" is an anti-Semitic term or indeed the once proper name of a grouper and nothing more. I must say, this 10 year old girl must be a very curious reader and given her reading level and material selection, I have to assume a very astute angler as well. In which case, she would understand that in the context of a fishing magazine, "hooker" is an appropriate term. No offense intended here, I just think that it's not going to change so education is the best answer. What about all the boats named "reel hooker"? You gonna tell them to change the names, maybe get the Coast Guard to put it on their list of cuss words? I have a better idea, teach the kids what a double entendre is and why they are sometimes inappropriate. P.S. I'm a charter boat Capt. and a Christian, best of both worlds;)